Tough situations,makes decisions easier!

Ever been in a situation that you are faced with a decision so difficult and so meaningful to you that you could instantly decide what is the best course of action? Well recently I've been put in a situation like that in more than one area of my life, but I will go into details about the situation I've been put in my emotional life. I find it strange that sometimes we realize how much a person matters to us only when we are put in a situation that she could leave from our lives completely. Why must we always be presented with extreme settings to always make the decisions we subconsciously want but can't seem to realize? It makes me wonder how many times,things would have been easier if we could find earlier that what we wanted was just in front of us. It is never pleasant but now I understand, that sometimes things have to be difficult in order for us to really find out what we really need in our lives.

The chocolate box.

The topic I choose this  morning is a metaphor. The idea I am trying to highlight is that the people you come across in your life are like the different chocolate flavors in a ordinary chocolate box. Some may be very sweet from the first bite but turn out to leave you with a very bitter taste in your mouth. Some may not seem so interesting from the start but in the end  you will be  wanting more and the last type I identified is the ones that from the first taste you will be engulfed in very powerful sweet taste that will leave you hoping that it will last forever. On my road through life I came across all of this different flavors and in my humble opinion the second one might be the best because it is the most balanced of them all. Why not the latter? Because it is to overwhelming and although I love it the most if you can't take another bite the bitterness will be as powerful as the sweet taste from the beginning. There are still so many tastes and varieties that I have not come in contact with but I know something. That someday all of us will find a chocolate that will make us want it everyday for the rest of our lives...

I guarantee, if you wear it you will be beautiful.

Early mornings, not the most pleasant thing in the world,but if it is a must , then with pleasure. We wake up starting a new day in different modes: with worries about the day that passed, with sadness in our hearts or with hope in our souls. The most important thing that we have to do each and every morning ,besides drinking the nectar of the gods( coffee) we should start out day with a smile on our face full stop. Why? Because that is the way we can clearly say to everyone around us that we are strong enough, confident enough to not get down or be pushed aside by all the things in our lives. The added benefit is that you are beautiful when you wear, your Smile!

Second chances?

Never liked this idea too much because it implies that a person did something wrong ,you forgive them, offering a second chance to prove themselves. Sadly, in most cases ,they disappoint time after time, chance after chance and things never actually get better.In my humble opinion the mistake is in ourselves, because people do not deserve a second chance right away. They deserve a second chance only when they can convince you that something is actually going to change. Only when their actions can speak louder then their words.All the other times we should be foolish to trust that things are going to get better.But, this happens so rarely and that is why people deserve more than a second chance, because after many trials and errors then can, in the end show you that the second chance was worth it. Do not lose hope in people around you, always try to see the best in them, because we human beings are so flawed ,that it takes some time until we can do the right things.Believe in them and you will see that this time will truly be the time they really deserved that second chance!

Bleeding with no blood.

Little by little day by day the wounds of our past get better. The process sadly can take sometimes a very long time...the trouble is we do not have the patience for it.Some wounds heal quickly but others are so deep that even after a very long time we can only say that we are just starting to get better. The depth of the wound in our soul is the problem..and not the time or healing. Maybe a question arises. How can we get such deep wounds? The answer is simple , these wounds we get from the people we literally opened our heart and souls , not having any protection whatsoever to shield us from betrayal , lies and false hope.Yes,in the end the wounds heal, but we are forever left with the scars. Our hearts can take so many blows until it gets so defensive and insecure that it becomes almost impossible to let someone again inside because it is very  afraid and ashamed of how many marks from the past it has across its surface.Never loose hope though because you can never know who could be the person to look inside  and despite it all say it is the most beautiful thing in the world and finally get to cleanse you of your scars..Always remember that hope can be just around the corner..and it might surprise you after all...

Escape

Let's just step back for a moment.Lay down, close your eyes and let your mind drift away. Try to think of something that will relax you and put a smile on your face. Now that you got to that point analyse :Why are you smiling?How where you? Who were you with?What were you doing? Yes the memory that you are thinking of can bring you joy for a moment but pain afterwards. But lets not try to think of those kind of memories. Let's say that is a good one with no aftermath.Now that we straighten out the little things let's move on to the big picture. The idea I am trying to achieve it's that at one point in your life you were satisfied with everything and everyone around you. And when you are feeling down always try to imagine that things were good at one time and not feel discouraged to try to push and resolve things to get to that point again. Nothing is impossible, we can achieve anything we want only one thing can stop us, our will. If we truly want something and we put enough thought and effort into it nothing will be beyond our reach.Changes are hard sometimes but we always can change our lives for the better and maybe just maybe someone will be there with a helping hand if we are lucky.It sometimes takes time and we are impatient but at one point we will break from our bonds and finally...escape!

Choices?Destiny?Fate?

I truly believe that nothing that happens to us is random. In other words I think that fates or destiny intervene taking me to places that I should be or met people that I should met. Nothing is left to chance. The question is do we ever have a say in this? Depends on how you interpret this question. I think during our lives we sometimes get faced with making a decision that will have an impact on us. For example you have some plans to go out somewhere with someone, but at the last moment you are invited somewhere else and decide in the end to go there.And what happens? Something that will change you, or meet a person that will influence your life in a good or a bad way.It amazes me how often this can happen. Destiny or fate for one moment is in your hands and you can decide which road to take. The decision seems unimportant at that time but after a while when you really start and think things through you realize if you only said yes or only said no ,nothing that happened would have happened or the other way around. I picture life as a long road which we travel from the start alone just wondering if where we are going it will bring us peace or joy. And we reach crossroads sometimes , that is when the tricky things happen. You could end up with a companion for a long or short time, a good or bad one, or you could even go ahead alone and face challenges that you could or couldn't take head on by yourself. In the end there is no turning back, because after that decision you can never look back. The only thing when things go the wrong way that remains is...the most mysterious question of all time. What if?

Sparks.. do they even exist?

What I want to highlight with this post are the sparks between two people. What is a spark? A spark is the moment when you meet a person for the first time and have a different feeling, a feeling of joy. Maybe I am wrong but that is my personal opinion on the subject. Nevertheless I found myself in different situations when I had encountered this so called "spark" when meeting a new person and most of the time something more then a mere friendship happened between me and the person in question. Sometimes it was a serious relationship , other times just a few months of tease and in some isolated cases some night you can never forget.Then the question arises why do I question the existence of this spark? Because I found this spark to be wrong in most cases .I would only say that a spark happened when it only represents the messenger of fate that the person you meet will make you happy if you pursue her.But life is never so easy and simple..and the spark sometimes is wrong.In the end throughout our lives we will encounter many "sparks" but it is our job to know when to pursue it and when to just let it go...

Is it ever too late?

An interesting question.My personal opinion is that sadly but true ,there can never be too late in some very special cases.You always say that regardless of what happens you will never look back again.But that is a lie.Deep down you know that is not the case and you could never close a door for someone no matter how hard you try.Why is that though? Because of what you felt or because that particular person changed your life in someway? I would say that a little bit of both.The way that they made you feel I think has the greatest impact on you.In my case the intensity of those feelings will always baffle me and make me wonder how it all happened...And new doors will be opened, new people, new adventures...but in the end there will always be a door slightly opened,just a crack...but enough for you to be curious if it will  be opened again...

Missing something, not someone?

I often find my mind wandering through all the my memories and sometimes it can surprise me. What do I mean with the previous statement? Very simple, I always go to places and actions in my past when I was happy, and what is really fascinating it is that I find joy in what I was doing at the time and not who I was doing it with.For example you miss the long walks at night, the cuddling, the kisses, but not necessarily the person you did them with. I find it strange but  in truth is it all that strange? An idea that keeps getting my attention that most of us don't regret the people we were with but the moments we shared together.I remember many things I've done with someone but in fact I do not regret the person..but the things we did, the romantic surprises ,the sacrifices and the most important of all the little things, the details. Yes, the person who was there matters but in the end the thing we cherish the most are feelings and I am not talking about love, I am talking about happiness, and yes for some love is the most important feeling in the world, but happiness should be if not equal right under it.The point I am trying to make in the end is that yes we miss the person we loved, but we also miss all the other little things which also meant a lot.

Letting go. Select difficulty : ☐ Easy ☐ Hard

The title says it all .Something us humans apparently can't seem to do.Something that completely boggles our minds.We can't seem not only to keep on missing people who we wished we have never met or people we could never again see for different reasons...but we constantly cling on to hope that maybe someday somehow all will be back as it used to be.And as much I would like to say something different it is our fault. Because we keep getting warning to let go to not continue in something that will definitely make us suffer....but we treat it like it is something against our human nature...when in fact it is the opposite. I wish I could have left some people behind before I got to involved before even the thought of not spending another day with them became something unbearable for my mind and soul...but like a fool that I am I DO NOT LISTEN, when I should have and not ignore all the warning signs in front of me.But in the end that is the way life is meant to be...a bag of mistakes and a handful of good choices so we will learn to treasure what really matters.