Tough situations,makes decisions easier!

Ever been in a situation that you are faced with a decision so difficult and so meaningful to you that you could instantly decide what is the best course of action? Well recently I've been put in a situation like that in more than one area of my life, but I will go into details about the situation I've been put in my emotional life. I find it strange that sometimes we realize how much a person matters to us only when we are put in a situation that she could leave from our lives completely. Why must we always be presented with extreme settings to always make the decisions we subconsciously want but can't seem to realize? It makes me wonder how many times,things would have been easier if we could find earlier that what we wanted was just in front of us. It is never pleasant but now I understand, that sometimes things have to be difficult in order for us to really find out what we really need in our lives.